The thing about being lonely is that it does not go away unless you make the choice to fight it.
Like any demon; fear hatred hurt sadness regret suffering pain, you have to pick up your sword and find a way to fight it. The trick about these emotional demons is that they often convince you that you have no way out, no escape, that you are not strong enough to fight them.
When I think about my recovery I realize more and more that I am in a sense fighting these emotional demons who have for so long convinced me that I deserve to suffer, to be punished for crimes I have not committed.
“Only Thing We Have to Fear Is Fear Itself”
~Franklin D Roosevelt
A lot of people in my former recovery group have told me “people in recovery are sick” but they never understand how to finish the sentence. “People in recovery are sick until they realize they need to stop worrying about picking up the bottle and start learning to pick up the sword”
Everyone I know in recovery is convinced that as long as you do not pick up, you can say your sober your healthy, your cured.
It is so much deeper than that, it is so much more complex then refusing to pick up a pill or a drink, it is about focusing on what it is that makes you want to pick up – peeling back the layers and seeing the demon for what it is.
So now that you know what it is you are actually fighting, you have two choices;
You can sit on your ass, whine and cry about how much your life sucks, or alternatively you can get up and do something about it.
“If you want to be somebody,
If you want to go somewhere,
You Better Wake Up and Pay Attention”
One of the other things we learn in recovery is that if you ever want your life to be better you have to live it for others, you get out of the Universe what you put into it. If you want to have a happy healthy life, then you have to actually work to make that happen and it should not be about making money and getting through the day.
You have to find something you are passionate about that helps other people – if I’ve learned anything in the last five years this is the most important lesson I can pass on.
“Never start a project with the idea of making money,
Start it with a desire to change the world.”
I want to leave the world in better condition then when I came into it. So many of us think that way but few of us have the courage to take action to make that happen. The world is filled with people who live and who die, and do very little in between those two occasions. You can decide to be lonely for the rest of your life, or you can find something you are passionate about and see where that road takes you.
The lesson of the day isn’t about inspiring you to do something to help others, its about showing you that through helping others you can help yourself.
Today’s lesson is simple: Choose! Make a choice, and be ready to live with the consequences, because the only thing that we have in this entire world that matters, that means anything, is Freedom Of Choice, The Power of Choice
Here is to hoping that you choose well.